Are You Owning Your Mindset?

Are You Owning Your Mindset?

Every day you have a choice. In fact, every day you have thousands of choices. Many unconscious, many conscious. You have a choice on what your attitude is. What your reaction is. What your demeanor is. How you treat others. How you respond to the challenge put in front of you.

Our days are made up of moments. And, it’s entirely up to you on how you live each moment. It doesn’t mean things won’t get hard. It doesn’t mean adversity won’t come daily. What it means is that you have to take an intentional stance on how you will respond to anything that comes your way.

So, how do you harness this positive mindset on a more consistent basis?

AWARENESS

First, you have to become aware of it. What triggers you? When do you get negative? When do you start to gossip? When do you complain? If you need to, start writing it down in a journal or piece of paper. Keep a tick sheet of your negative reactions. Both internal and external. I think you’ll be surprised at how many you default to.

OWNERSHIP

Second, you must take ownership of it. If you don’t own your mindset, you’ll get crushed. Our default is to over react and flee when tough things happen. Our brains are wired for survival. The moment something tough happens, our default is to run and hide. To survive. It takes awareness and really owning it to stay the course and keep a positive mind.

INTENTION

Third, be intentional about being more positive. Think before you speak. If you catch yourself complaining, stop and think about how you can take on a more positive stance. This takes time. It won’t happen overnight but if you can get just a little bit better each day…just a little more intentional each day, you’ll be blown away by the results over time.

Remember, we all have a choice every moment of everyday. $–t is going to happen to you. It just is. The better we can get at anticipating this and embracing the challenges we face, the better results we’ll see.

It’s a battle to build a positive mindset. But the more you’re aware of it, own it and are intentional about staying positive, the greater the likelihood for positive results.

I tell you this as someone who’s battled a negative mindset in many facets. From being a college athlete and struggling mightily with mindset after I got benched to losing a big account a few years ago – I’ve been there and I’ve failed. By the grace of God, I surrounded myself with some great influences and learned about the importance of a consistent, positive mindset on a moment to moment basis. I can tell you first hand that you will be stronger for it. Whatever comes your way, take a breath and find the diamond in the rough. It’s in there.

Adversity always leads to opportunity…you just have to look for it.

Find your “Edge” with the AIA Framework

Find your “Edge” with the AIA Framework

When I was a kid growing up in Cleveland, there was a high school wrestling coach who wrote a book that impacted me greatly.  It was a book primarily of quotes from coaches, athletes, etc.  I was deeply inspired by the book.  I used to read it often.  That book was written by Howard Ferguson, who was the St. Edward wrestling coach at the time.  It’s called “The Edge”.  The seed was planted for me to keep seeking out wisdom from others.  At the time, I didn’t have enough life experience to truly know what The Edge was. The Edge

Growing up as an athlete, I experienced some of what it was like to have this “Edge”.  I had talent and worked hard to develop skills.  I was able to become a pretty good soccer player in my younger days – good enough to earn a college scholarship to a top 20 ranked Division One school.

Unfortunately (or fortunately in hindsight), I lost “The Edge” I had developed and I struggled immensely during my college years.  I was facing some personal demons and, frankly, didn’t know how to deal with them.  This led to some poor play on the field and I can easily attribute it to my mindset.  I simply lost The Edge.

As I’ve ventured into adult life, I’ve been through peaks and valleys (as we all have).  I’ve experienced The Edge at times and I’ve also experienced the Valleys.  Over the last two years, I’ve studied deeply what gives people this Edge and what experiences bring me close to having it.

What I’ve uncovered is that everyone has the capacity to gain The Edge but it’s not easy.  It takes time.  It takes practice.  Combining my personal experiences with a deep study of many top performers, I’ve come up with a framework that I believe gets us closer to experiencing “The Edge” on a more consistent basis.  I call this framework – AIA.

THE AIA FRAMEWORK

Awareness

Intention 

Action

Awareness

The Edge Scan color

First, to really perform at a high level, you have to be Aware of your current state.  Are you reaching your potential?  What are you great at?  What are you struggling with?  You must be honest.  You must take ownership of your past, your present & your future.  Where do you want to go?  This is all about Awareness.

Intention

Second, you have to live with Intention.  Once you have the awareness of where you are today and where you want to go, you must be intentional in planning how you’re going to get there.  This takes work.  It takes reflection.  It takes writing down your thoughts (or typing).  It takes surrounding yourself with people who inspire and challenge you.  This can be anything from vision to goal-setting.

Action

Third, you must take action.  Awareness tells you where you are today.  Intention helps you understand where you want to go.  But, without Action there is no going from Point A to Point B.  Many people fall short here.  Execution is hard.  It takes work to make big things happen.  You’re going to struggle.  You’re going to face uphill battles.  But, the perseverance and the mental fortitude to keep pressing on is usually the secret sauce to execution.

Thinking about Process vs Outcome is Paramount to living with The Edge

I really believe that any high impact outcomes are more a product of embracing the process than only focusing on outcomes.  Lincoln has a great quote – he said “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.”Lincoln

I love this idea.  I think we spend too much time in a default state of reacting and not enough time preparing and building.  We’re stuck on the surface and our attention is at the mercy of something or someone else.  To accomplish anything of significance, it takes an ability to back up and think about what you’re really trying to do.  Plan with a purpose, set specific milestones and then embrace the process to get there.  It’s not always pretty…in fact, it can be really ugly.  But, you must trust the process.

This is why I’ve constructed this framework.  AIA – Awareness, Intention, Action.  It literally is the basis for all I do now.  I believe you can layer this onto many things.  I’ve used it at work with sales processes and consulting engagements with clients.  I’ve used it with coaching clients.  I’ve used it for my own personal goal setting.  I’ve used it with the soccer team I coach.  I’ve used it with my relationship with my wife.  I’ve used it to plan a church Mission Trip and I’ve used it to help run a Development initiative at a non-profit.

It’s really the operating system that I utilize today and I wanted to share this with you.  I will be sharing more in depth as we go and I’m currently looking at creating more formalized ways to teach this and share this.  I’m even considering a complete brand change with The Catalyst Project in the near future.

The bottom line is this – my mission is to see as many people as possible dig deep and reach their potential.  This is as much about contributing to others in meaningful way as it is around achievement.  I think it takes work for sure but the awareness of where you are, the intention of where you want to go and the disciplined action to do the work forms the basis for this.

So, welcome to The Edge – I look forward to sharing more with you as we go!

How can you take action today?

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The Wheel of Life

My encouragement to you is to gain some awareness. Think about your life in your primary areas of intention – for me it’s Faith, Family, Health, Finances, Contribution and Personal Development.  On a scale of 1-10, write down where you are in each area.  Then, write down where you’d like to be in the next 12 months (be realistic – if you’re a 2 in one area, getting to a 10 may be a challenge.  Why not get to a 5 first, then go from there).  There’s a great tool called the Wheel of Life that helps you do just this – Check out this link where you can either download a free template to create your own or use their guide to create one.  That’s a good start.  Do this every three months and you’re on to something.  This is  your first step to real Awareness.

 

 

 

 

Embrace Acute Pain

Embrace Acute Pain

Boy am I in the mix right now.  A week ago I received news of a deal gone South.  I’m a sales guy. Large deals don’t come along that often and this one was signed/sealed/delivered last month.  All that was needed was contract signature.  Then, the curveball.  The deal’s still going to happen, just different terms.

I feel like I read people pretty well – essentially that’s what I’m paid to do.  And, the coaching I do is all about reading people.  I misread this one…

I’ve been pretty depressed thinking about it…what did I miss?  Where did we fall short?  Why didn’t I see this coming.  Again, it’s not that the deal is dead, just was blindsided – and I hate being blindsided.

So, I thought I’d write about and hopefully help someone out there who’s dealing in the trenches with something that’s gone awry…work/life/sports – kind of all the same – things happen. Sh%t happens, as the saying goes.  I used to think that I always had to put on a pretty face…that adversity happens and you just bounce back…while this is true to a large degree, I think it’s dangerous.  When stuff happens, I think you have to let yourself feel it….don’t just sweep it under the rug.  I haven’t slept well all week.  Life is going on…work is going on.  Again, this particular deal is still being salvaged…but it stings.  I haven’t felt this in a while.  I keep trying to force my way out of it…to still close the deal and think about other stuff.  Maybe an extra glass of wine or beer on a few of the nights…I don’t think that’s the right path….we…rather, I, too many times in the past just tried to bounce back…and too many times swept “stuff” under the rug.

The truth is, I need to face it head on.  I made a misjudgment….a mistake.  Not the end of the world, but I need to feel the pain for a bit to learn from it.  So next time, I can get ahead of it.  Now, I’m fighting to still close this deal by the end of the year – my number (sales quota) depends on it.

So, if there’s one ultimate lesson here it’s to not run from stuff when it happens.  If it’s painful that’s not necessarily a bad thing.  As my friend Kary talks about – embrace acute pain….otherwise multiple rounds of acute pain, when pushed aside, turn into chronic pain.  Been there done that.

Embrace the challenge at hand.  Don’t sweep it…embrace it, face it head on…learn from it…get better.  That’s all we can do.

When things don’t go your way

When things don’t go your way

I’ve been reminded of the importance of facing obstacles head on. A phone call with a client on Friday where I received some bad news. A deal we had agreed to a month ago was now off the table. Not the entire deal, just many of the things we agreed to were being asked to be taken out. I wasn’t so much disappointed in the newly proposed structure, it was more of the timing of the conversation. You see, the deal was supposed to be signed Friday. There was no indication that it wouldn’t be until mid-week last week when initial rumblings started to happen. Deals aren’t supposed to go down that way – 17 yrs in the business – and seeing a lot of interesting things, but there was no indication a month ago (when terms were agreed to) that this would happen. Lesson learned for me for sure.

In sales there’s an adage that the deal is never closed until the ink is dry (aka – the contract is signed). I’ve learned to be careful with communicating out any type of closed deal for this reason. I’m glad I didn’t hear.

So, the constructs of the deal have changed…frankly, I was super pissed off about the way this went down Friday. I was mad at the client for how it went down. After reflecting on, praying about, and trying to construct how we go from here, I’ve realized that, ultimately, I have to look at myself and the work I’ve done to bring this home.

You see, after much reflection, and some of the info I received Friday, I realized that we dropped the ball on a couple things. Some were very small, some a little bigger. It’s software, it’s business – balls are going to drop. We won’t be 100% everyday. But it’s a great reminder….that we need to keep striving to be 100%. Whether it’s getting things delivered on time or presenting data to a client – it’s important to take pride in your work – to do everything you can do to deliver huge value.

Many times it’s not the one thing that drops that causes the issues, but it’s the ten small things over the course of a couple years that aren’t 100%, that add up to decisions like we had Friday.

We’ll do better, we have no choice. I’m about to go into a meeting to salvage the deal today. We’ll still do business, just the constructs have changed. The good news is that I learned that we are lacking trust at the client. Regardless of my thoughts before Friday, that’s the world we’re in today. We need to reset….our team needs to buckle down…and deliver what we say we’re going to do….it’s a striving for greatness….a relentless pursuit of delivering on everything we set out. It’s not easy….it takes discipline, hard work, consistency, perseverance….probably most of all – looking at ourselves in the mirror and saying – we’re going to do our best today.

Stuff happens. The question is, when obstacles arise, are you going to make excuses or are you going to pick up wherever you are and make lemonade out of lemons.

Monday…here we go…

Success Habits – The 3 Pillars of Achieving High-Level Results

Success Habits – The 3 Pillars of Achieving High-Level Results

Over the last year, I’ve had the opportunity to interview and take a deep dive into the minds of over 40 business executives, sales leaders, sports coaches and entrepreneurs. These were lengthy, in-depth conversations around what made them successful…and, furthermore, what held them back. My findings were pretty fascinating and I thought I’d share some of this with you. What started as a small project last November quickly became an obsession of finding out what the best of the best did to keep their edge.

I was really suprised by how different everyone went about their day to day work.  I’d say for sure that everyone had things they do really well and things they can improve. One of the objectives was to uncover both and help everyone get a little bit better. And, of course, to tease out what some of the consistent themes were so that I could help add value going forward.  Finally, and selfishly, I wanted to learn : )

I really believe no matter how much success you have or how “good” you are today, if you’re not looking to get better it’s a recipe for disaster. I say that from experience. Nine years ago I got a big promotion. I was 30 yrs old and if I’m being honest – got a little complacent. I stopped pushing the envelope and thought I had “made it”. Thankfully, I got a wake-up call a few years ago and my mindset is all about continuous growth. Hard lesson, but a great lesson.

Back to my research and some key findings. I’ve been blown away by the candor and how different people approach things. I liken the conversations to that picture of the iceberg where all you see is what’s above the water. You know the one I’m talking about – where you can only see a small piece above and there’s this huge piece below the surface we never see. This was such a big theme – everyone had so much they did on a day to day basis that they really never thought about. I found that many never thought about their daily habits and what made them “successful”. I put that in italics because success is certainly different for everyone. I can definitely tell you that although important, financial success was rarely the primary factor. In fact, the idea of serving and adding value was a big theme for most. The best of the best definitely had a contribution mindset that set them apart. That was cool to see.

I thought I’d list out a few key learnings and the cool part is this has opened up a much larger conversation about how we can all learn from each other.
Three core themes stuck out and they are as follows:

Theme #1 – Mindset

Everyone has challenges in their daily lives. It was a pervasive theme. The best of the best have a resiliency to them. They know that things won’t always go their way but they’re focused on moving forward. Carol Dweck, who wrote the book “Mindset – The New Psychology of Success” refers to two different types of approaches. One is a Fixed Mindset and the other is a Growth Mindset. Here’s what Dweck says about Fixed Mindsets – “In a fixed mindset, people believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They spend their time documenting their intelligence or talent instead of developing them. They also believe that talent alone creates success—without effort. They’re wrong.” Here’s what she says about Growth Mindsets – “People with a growth mindset, on the other hand, see their qualities as things that can be developed through their dedication and effort. Sure they’re happy if they’re brainy or talented, but that’s just the starting point. They understand that no one has ever accomplished great things—not Mozart, Darwin, or Michael Jordan—without years of passionate practice and learning.” Make sense? We can all get better. Whatever cards you’re dealt today are simply the hand you are dealt. You have a choice with how you play that hand. This is crucial – without this foundation, I’m not sure anything else matters.

Theme #2 – Planning

The best plan their work every day. They don’t let the urgency of others own what they do. They utilize their calendars to schedule important tasks and meetings. As Stephen Covey said in “7 Habits of Highly Successful People”, the best definitely “Begin with the end in mind”. Abraham Lincoln has a great quote, “Give me six hours to cut down a tree and I’ll spend the first four sharpening the axe.” Think about that…we often times want to dive into our email or daily grind….but are you really thinking about your work the right way. The best focus on high impact work and plan their day around that. There are many different approaches to how people plan and execute, but the important thing is that you’re not just falling prey to what comes at you. The best of the best had specific tasks or projects they work on for the day and they get after it. Those that leverage their calendars to plan out specific tasks are certainly on the higher end of performance. One of the key habits that came forth was around identifying a small list of specific outcomes for the day and having an intense focus on achieving those before working on less impactful things. Quick tip – Write down the top 3-5 outcomes for the day and block time in your calendar to start the day (start with 90 minutes). Start with the top outcome and work your way down that list. Do this first and do it everyday…you’ll start to see some results, I promise.

Theme #3 – Fuel

Simply put, the best fuel for optimal performance. This means they think like an athlete when they work. Whether it’s what you put into your body (food/liquid) or how much you sleep, I can assure the best of the best are thinking about this. In fact, I talked to a very successful CEO who chuckled about the notion of CEO’s pulling all nighters and working 80 hour weeks. He counted sleep as one of the primary components to his success. The average amount of sleep per night was about seven hours for these top performers. There were some that operated on less but I can tell you that their stress level was a lot higher. When it comes to what you put in your body, if you ever played a sport, did you perform well if you just at a Big Mac and Vanilla Shake before your game? I think we both know the answer – so, why would you eat a bunch of junk during your work day? To perform at an optimal level, you MUST think about what you’re fueling your body and mind with.

These are definitely the top three themes that came to the surface but there were a lot more that are important to the daily success. I can tell you that most wake up early but not all. I talked to some very successful folks who aren’t early risers…they still do high impact work. The fun part is that the conversation continues to evolve.

How can you take action?
My encouragement for you is to pick one area that you want to get better. If it’s planning better, schedule 30 minutes in your day just for planning. If it’s mindset, I recommend journaling about what brings you down and makes you think from a negative state. On the flip side, think about what brings you up. Just being aware is a great first step. And, remember, life isn’t perfect. If you can focus on production over perfection, you’ll be so far ahead of the game. If it’s fuel, think about what time you’re going to bed. Start your bed time routine a little earlier. Try putting your phone in airplane mode so you won’t get buzzed right when you’re going to bed. Think about your energy throughout the day. Start to think about your food intake as fuel for your body, mind & soul.
I’d love to hear from you. What’s the one habit/ritual/thing that helps you achieve what you set out to on a daily basis? Furthermore, what’s the biggest challenge you have when it comes to daily “success”?

Would love to hear in the comments!

Thanks for reading.
Jon

Great Teams Embrace the Struggle

Great Teams Embrace the Struggle

I’ve had the fortune of playing on some really good teams, both athletically and in business.  It’s a topic that really fascinates me. What makes a great team versus a good team??  What’s the difference?  I believe there’s a fine line between a good team and a great team….although that fine line is very hard to attain…and, really, to be aware of.

It’s a process.  Great teams don’t start as great teams.  Great teams also aren’t always great – they have peaks and valleys just like the rest of us.  The difference?  Great teams have the ability to get out of the valley faster and with much less residue than good (or weak) teams.  Does that make sense?  I’ll repeat it  b/c it’s ultra important – great teams, just like any “successful” person, goes through peaks and valleys just like everyone else.  They just respond quicker than most everyone else.  Not just respond, they adapt….the learn from what got them into the valley.  So…next time, the likelihood of going into the valley is less – they ADAPT.

We get so caught up in seeing teams or people exude this greatness.  We think they were born with it…that they just have it in their DNA.  Oh, how untrue this is.  Great teams embrace the process….great teams embrace the daily grind…the ups and downs.  They don’t get stuck in the muck…..they embrace the muck…and fight their way out of it.

Great teams prepare.  Great teams understand that their backs are going to be up against the wall, many times on a daily basis.  The question is, what is that team going to do about it.  It’s a culture that’s built over time.  It’s a mindset that’s instilled in the deepest part of each individual on that team.  It’s a resilience.  It’s starts with the leader then it filters down to the players or team members….a belief in each other….a belief in the process.

So…embrace the struggle my friends….it’s coming…your greatness is about how you adjust, adapt and respond to your valleys.

Get Uncomfortable

Get Uncomfortable

I’m learning more and more about this concept from coaching. It’s funny how our brains work but I can’t stress how much I’ve learned from coaching youth soccer.  Not just about the game, but about business and life. It’s a daily lesson in human psychology. Hats off to all the youth sports coaches out there – if you can build a team the right way you’re doing some cool things. And the psychology piece is the biggest variable, I believe. 

Over last two weeks, I’ve been tinkering with our training sessions. Instead of working mostly on technique or even playing to goals, we’ve spent a lot of time simply playing keep away with two teams.  5 passes in a row is a point and the other team has to do push-ups (yes, it’s competitive). Here’s the catch – we always restrict the touches when we do this. Either two or three touches max. If you go over, possession goes to the other team. 

Most of the kids don’t like it so far but they are coming along. I even had one kid tell me how it made no sense because “you don’t have restrictions in the game”.  Ha. Exactly. That’s why we’re doing it, I told him. 

You see, the faster we think in practice, the slower the game becomes.  The more we get comfortable being uncomfortable in practice, the better we will play in games. 

I see them improving each practice. In our game yesterday I even scrapped the traditional warm up. No more shooting with no defenders…we just did his possession drill.  Trying to make it more game-like.

The result?  We won 5-0. I really don’t care about the score but we absolutely imposed our will on this team. And guess what – we lost to these guys 3 weeks ago and narrowly beat them last month. Wasn’t even close this time. The difference?  I believe the game is slowing down for us. Why?  Because we are practicing at a high level and forcing the issue. 

Look, I’m not naive. I realize we will continue to struggle at times. That’s part of growing…but I’m encouraged.  These kids are a challenge at times. Some of my guys can’t seem to grasp the concept of effort and pushing themselves. They’re getting better but it’s a constant push. 

I’m reminded about all the teams I’ve been on…in sports, in business…and in life. 

It doesn’t happen overnight.  We need to focus on incremental improvements on a daily basis. Get a just a little bit better each day. Just a little bit. And, over time, you should have some good things happen. 

So, my advice to you (and to me) – keep getting uncomfortable. That’s where real growth happens. 

Here’s a video with some similar thoughts as well:

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How Gritty are you?

How Gritty are you?

In 1940, researchers at Harvard decided to test a group of students. Over 100 sophomores performed in a study where they were asked to run on a treadmill for up to five minutes. The angle was steep and the speed was fast – the average of the 130 students was four minutes with some running as little as one minute and thirty seconds.

The test was designed to be exhausting. They were testing not just the physical capacity of the students but also the mental capacity (or “strength of will”).

The goal of the study was to determine if there was a correlation later in life to various “success” factors. They monitored things like marriage status, income, career advancement, self-reported satisfaction with work and marriage, social activities, psychological medical history, etc. The researchers tracked the participants every two years and the study continued into their later years.

Here’s what they found out – The participants who were able to stay on the treadmill the longest had the highest performance on the factors they rated later in life.

Angela Duckworth and “Grit”

Angela Duckworth is the author of the book, “Grit – The Power of Passion and Perseverance”. Duckworth is a psychologist, former Consultant and School Teacher. She’s observed a lot of people – that’s what she does for a living. Her research points to this “Grit” factor as the defining trait of the most successful people. I get that “success” can be defined in many different ways, but I think, overall, any type of performance or result is usually accompanied by many struggles. The best of the best simply have this Grit deep inside them.

It’s interesting in that a study that I conducted last year where I interviewed over 30 high performing sales reps and leaders, the results were very much in line with Duckworth’s work and the Harvard Team’s research.

Sure, many other factors play a part in overall performance, but the best of the best were the most resilient and, ultimately, viewed obstacles as opportunities. In fact, if I had to big one overriding trait of the top performers, it was easily their mindset and their capacity to overcome challenges and still perform.

Back to Duckworth’s research. Although the Harvard test was a good indicator, she talks about the willingness to come back and do it again the next day. This, she says, was an even closer identifier of true Grit. Essentially, are you willing to get back up once you’ve fallen down?

She also outlines a formula which I believe is really profound on right on:

Talent x effort = skill

Skill x effort = achievement

Here’s what this means.  Of course, you need some sort of talent to get any type of achievement.  Talent, however, only takes you so far.  For example, let’s say you have a very talented youth soccer player.  By the way, I see this all the time, as I coach my son and his U10 club team.  So, you have a talented kid – this is JUST the beginning.  Next, comes the Effort.  When you combine Talent with the Effort, then you develop skill.  I have some very talented kids who are still learning to put in the right amount of effort.  It’s been pretty astounding to see some kids with less talent start to surpass the more talented kids, simply because they are outworking them at practice.  Once the skill is developed, now you add some more effort onto this and that’s where you get the achievement.

Effort Times Two

Here’s the secret sauce – there’s a reason effort is in both equations.  Talent without effort doesn’t get you very far.  Furthermore, once you develop a skill, you need to keep working hard to get to any form of achievement.  I tell my kids all the time – I’ll take effort over talent all day long.  We’re a work in progress still but I definitely beat this drum every time we’re together.

This isn’t easy.  Grit takes awareness.  Grit takes intention.  Grit takes a daily approach and deliberate practice to get really good at it.  I don’t think people are born with grit.  I think some may be predisposed to it, sure, but I think everyone has the capacity to dig deep and push out of their comfort zone.

If you’re struggling to perform at whatever it is your trying to do, think about these equations.  Talent only gets you so far.  Once you develop a skill that, too, only gets you so far.  It’s the consistent effort over a long period of time that leads to achievement.

We tend to see successful people – whether that be athletes, musicians, business leaders, parents or coaches – and we think they were born to succeed.  The truth is, you don’t see what they’re doing when the cameras are off.  You don’t see the early morning wake up calls or the countless hours honing their craft.

Take the Grit Test

So, how gritty are you?  Well, the good news is, Duckworth created a test that was part of her research.  She calls it the Grit Scale.  You can take it there – http://angeladuckworth.com/grit-scale/ (by the way, I scored a 4.0 which is about 65% – some work to do here for me)

I’m a firm believer that this is one of the most important things we can teach the younger generation.  I think, in this day and age, kids want things right away.  We live in a 140 character world where things happen fast.  Focus is pretty much non-existent.  Heck, I’ve read that our avg attention spans have gone from something like 12-13 seconds to 8 seconds in recent years.  That’s not good.  I think it’s turning many of us to adopt a “want it right now” mindset and we patience and discipline are going out the window.  I tell you this from experience – I struggle with this just as much as anyone.

Good & Bad News

Here’s the good and bad news for all of us.  The bad news first – we’re going to miss out on many opportunities if we can’t get beyond the constant noise in our heads.  Let me ask you this – how often have you found yourself reading an article, a book on your tablet or been on social media – and the next thing you know, you look up 45 minutes later and you’re doing something totally different than what you set out to do?  C’mon, be real – I’ve been there many times, haven’t you?  We chased the rabbit, so to speak.  So, as amazing as social media or the internet may be, it’s designed to grab (no crush) our attention.  Now, to the good news – those that can see above the noise and find the awareness to not fall victim to this constant struggle give themselves and opportunity to get some really amazing things done.

It takes awareness first and grit second to do things like put your phone away for a day (or even a couple hours) and spend real time with your family and friends.  It takes grit to wake up every day and read one more chapter in the book you’ve been wanting to read.  It takes grit to sacrifice the short term gain of eating those french fries for the long-term gain of feeling healthier and living better.

Grit isn’t easy.  I think Duckworth is spot on.

How can we all take action?

The first step to any change or any achievement is Awareness.  The second step is Action.  Here’s something really practical for you as a next step – Take the test, find out if where you land on the Grit scale.  If you don’t like your score, be intentional about setting a plan to get better in this area.  Put a reminder in your calendar twice a day – 7am and 2pm that just says “Be Gritty” and set it recurring daily for 30 days.  When that reminder hits each day, just stop to think for 5-10 seconds and ask yourself two questions “Am I exuding Grit?” and “How can I be more Gritty?”.  Feel free to write down your thoughts or just think about.  It takes intentional practice to get better at anything.

Here’s the test again – http://angeladuckworth.com/grit-scale/

Good luck and shoot me a note or enter a comment below and let us know how you did.

Until next time…

Jon

Sources:

“Grit – The Power of Passion and Perseverance”Angela Duckworth

Harvard Research Study – The Treadmill Test, 1940 (later expanded on by psychiatrist, George Vaillant) – you can learn more about George here.

Duckworth’s TED talk is worth watching as well – only 6 minutes – watch it here.

 

Impact

Impact

There’s a lot of talk these days about success and what makes a person successful.  First off, success is individual.  Each person has their own identity when it comes to success.  Some think of success as simply achievement.  I set out to do X and I accomplished X.  Or, I want to make X amount of money and I make X amount.

In my dealings with many clients and business leaders, explicitly with high performers, I do believe that success differs for each individual.  That being said, I believe there’s a common theme among all higher performers.

This is Impact.  Whether it’s impacting a client, a team, a family, another person…whatever that is…it comes down to impact.  Those that feel they aren’t impacting others in a meaningful way are typically not viewing themselves as successful.

So, I’ll ask, are you impacting others?  Are you really making an impact on whatever it is you’re doing day to day?  Your family?  Your business?  Your friends?  Your cause?  The list is really endless.

Impact matters.  This is a quality we can all cultivate, in my opinion.  I don’t believe we’re simply born with the ability to impact others in a positive way. It can be a learned trait.  It can literally be a daily focus….a moment by moment focus.  To me, I think it comes down to adding value.  Either you’re adding value or you’re not.  Simply ask that of yourself.  In every interaction, are you being a positive influence or a negative influence.  That’s true impact.

At times, this means you have to press and you have to talk about tough things.  Making an impact isn’t always about talking about how great everything it is. Sometimes it’s the hard conversations that no one wants to have.

Impact.  You can literally change someone’s life when you think about this way.  Adversity can strike, you can be ready to fight back….and think twice about how you respond.

Tactically, think about an interaction today.  Whether it’s dealing with your kids, a colleague, a client, a parent or a friend….think about how you make a positive impact on your interaction.  This may mean swallowing crow….this may mean thinking outside the box.  This may mean showing a high level of humility.  Push yourself a bit.  Thinking this way is a paradigm shift – I really believe that.

How can you impact others in a positive and meaningful way?  That’s the big question.  You can impact others every day – don’t ever underestimate it!

Good luck!

Courage

Courage

The year – 1924.  The scene – The Paris Olympics.

A young man was running in the Olympics – his best event was the 100-meter race.  He decided not to run.  He made a courageous decision.  Eric Liddell, the Scotsman, decided to not run in the 100-meter race because it fell on a Sunday.  His faith and religious belief built up a strong enough foundation in him to make the decision not to run.

Can you imagine?  The Olympics.  Once every four years…for the best of the best, the window is very small – one, maybe two major competitions, and their career is finished.  Liddell made an intentional and courageous decision to not run his best event, simply because it fell on a Sunday.  We know his name because he went on to run and electrify the world by winning the 400-meter race, which wasn’t even close to his best event.  He made a conscious decision before the games to not run and you better believe he had many naysayers trying to talk him into running.

Liddell stood strong on his decision and, for that, his legacy is much greater than what simply winning an Olympic Gold Medal.

I get to ride with my son at least three days a week to soccer practice.  He’s eight and I have the privilege of coaching his team, as I’ve talked about before.  We have a lot of funny conversations and every once in a while a more serious one.  I try not to “coach” him on the way to and from practice or games.  I get to do enough of that on the field.  We started talking about fear – he brought it up and the conversation moved to him asking me if I was ever afraid.

This led to a talk about courage.  As I told him, it’s okay to be afraid.  I fear just as much as anyone else.  Fear is a normal human emotion.  In fact, it helps us a lot.  The key, however, is to not let our fears keep us from moving forward.  Fears can easily hold us back but I also think fears can be a significant catalyst for doing something amazing.  You see, courage is what brings us to the other side of fear.  Courage is a matter of the heart.  It’s the cornerstone that brings us across the stormy waters in whatever we face in life.  In fact, root of the word courage is the latin word “cor”, which means heart.

For Eric Liddell, courage was taking a stand and holding firm in his beliefs and his faith.  Do you think he was afraid? I imagine there was some fear in there somewhere.

So, the next time you feel fear – maybe you let it breathe a little bit. Feel it but don’t run from it.  Accept it for what it is and ask yourself – what if I face my fears and do something out of the ordinary.  What if you pick up the phone and have the conversation you’ve feared having?….or, jumped into a cause you wanted to support but were afraid of what people might think?

Fear is going to happen….fear is okay, fear is normal.  You can let it drag you down and keep you from moving forward…OR, you can take a good hard look and decide that courage trumps fear.

Good luck and God Bless.